Make this Valentine’s Day all about self-love

Valentine’s Day is often welcomed with both delight and dread. 

For those with no romantic partner, celebrating can often feel like society holding up a mirror of what we’re supposedly missing in our lives. While often associated with romantic love, Valentine’s Day is also the perfect time to turn that love inward and celebrate yourself. Self-love isn’t just a buzzword—it’s the foundation of a fulfilling and joyful life. 

And what better way to embody self-love than by embracing the "soft life" movement?

So, what is the “Soft Life”?

The "soft life" is all about ease, peace, and intentional joy. It means choosing self-love over burnout, prioritising your well-being, and allowing yourself to experience life’s pleasures without guilt. It’s about setting boundaries, eliminating unnecessary stress, and cultivating a life filled with beauty, comfort, and self-respect. It’s about honoring yourself.

So instead of waiting for those red roses and the box of chocolates, why not use Valentine’s Day as a moment to cherish yourself. 

Here are some ways to practice self-love and embrace the soft life:

1. Indulge in Meaningful Self-Care

Plan a spa day at home, cook yourself a delicious meal, or take a long, slow morning without rushing. Treat yourself with the same tenderness you would offer a loved one.

2. Speak Kindly to Yourself

Replace self-criticism with affirmations. Tell yourself, "I am worthy of love," "I deserve love," and "I am enough as I am, to be loved." Practicing gratitude and self-affirmation builds confidence and a deep sense of inner peace.

3. Say No to Overworking, Yes to Rest

Set boundaries at work, take breaks when needed, and allow yourself to rest without guilt. Productivity does not define your value.

4. Curate Your Environment for Comfort and Joy

Surround yourself with things that bring you joy—soft blankets, candles, music that soothes your soul. Make your space a sanctuary where you feel safe and at ease. The soft life is about creating an environment that nurtures your well-being. Here’s a 30-day challenge for bringing joy back into your life.

5. Celebrate Yourself

Buy yourself those flowers and chocolates, write yourself a love letter, or take yourself on a solo date. Romantic love is beautiful, but self-love is just as essential. Honor your journey, your growth, and your unique beauty.

This Valentine’s Day, embrace the soft life and give yourself the love you so freely give to others. At Tala Thrive, we can help you do just that by matching and connecting you with culturally competent therapists and coaches who understand your culture, language and/or religion. So be sure to sign up at TalaThrive.com to join our community.

Remember, we want you to thrive - mentally, physically, and emotionally - so you can start living the life you truly deserve. 

By Lola Akinmade